Jangan Abaikan Waktu Luang Untuk Keluarga

Keluarga adalah harta yang tidak ternilai. Memiliki pasangan yang ideal dengan anak-anak yang manis merupakan kebanggaan tersendiri, namun sayang kebersamaan terbatas oleh waktu karena kesibukan pekerjaan. Bahkan saat akhir pekan dimana hari libur bisa menjadi waktu yang sangat berharga untuk bercengkrama dengan keluarga, harus tersita karena pekerjaan.

Memanfaatkan waktu untuk berkumpul bersama keluarga memiliki dampak yang baik untuk mempererat hubungan antar anggota keluarga, karena pada saat inilah orang tua bisa lebih dekat, lebih memahami dan bahkan jadi lebih tahu apa yang diharapkan anak.

Akhir pekan bisa dimanfaatkan untuk liburan atau melakukan kegiatan bersama-sama anggota keluarga, dengan begitu kedekatan akan terasa lebih hangat dan bahagia. Kedekatan, membuat anak memiliki rasa nyaman dan membutuhkan, ini adalah waktu yang tepat untuk Anda yang ingin menjadi sahabat dekat sang anak. Anda bisa bercengkrama, bercerita berbagai kisah, bahkan bisa jadi penasehat yang baik untuk anak.

Banyak orang bertanya apa sebenarnya manfaat dari waktu bersama keluarga? Mungkin kebersamaan tidak bisa dijawab dalam satu waktu, tapi kelak sebagai orang tua Anda akan mengetahui manfaatnya ketika anak sudah mulai tumbuh besar, dan bisa bersoal-jawab.

Berikut ada beberapa kedekatan yang bisa dirasakan pada waktu luang untuk keluarga dengan baik.


Selain lebih akrab satu sama lain, waktu kebersamaan keluarga bisa jadi sarana untuk sharing dimana situasi ini bisa membuat anak jadi lebih terbuka. Kebersamaan dapat membuat suasana lebih natural. Berbeda dengan orang tua yang terkesan tidak acuh dan mengabaikan waktu luang bersama keluarga, anak akan lebih tertutup bahkan takut untuk menceritakan apa saja yang dialaminya di sekolah atau di lingkungan mainnya. Anak bisa saja mencontoh kebiasaan orang tua yang ‘kurang sensitif’ terhadap sekitar.

Waktu luang juga bisa melepaskan stres. Kepenatan akan terurai setelah melihat tawa sang anak berikut kelucuannya. Adanya interaksi antara orang tua dan anak membuat beban keseharian karena pekerjaan teredam sementara. Rasakan kebersamaan ini, karena nantinya Anda akan kehilangan momen penting bersama, saat mereka sudah dewasa dan memiliki keluarga sendiri. Luangkan sedikit waktu disela kesibukan Anda jika ingin keluarga menciptakan yang berkualitas.


Saat bersama-sama juga dapat dimanfaatkan sebagai ajang untuk mengajarkan sesuatu yang baru kepada anak. Banyak hal positif yang bisa ditularkan ke anak, mulai dari kedisiplinan, berlajar memasak bersama, bahkan mungkin mengajarkan anak untuk membersihkan rumah. Mengerjakan tugas bersama secara tidak langsung membuat si anak lebih mengenal gotong-royong. Anda bisa juga mengajak anak untuk melakukan hobi.

Menyempatkan waktu bagi keluarga sangat baik untuk menunjukkan kepada anak-anak, bahwa Anda sebagai orang tua sangat menyayangi dan memperhatikan mereka. Selain punya banyak waktu di akhir pekan, Anda bisa membuat anak-anak semakin dekat dan menyayangi Anda sebagai orang tua.
Manfaat lainnya adalah, bisa memperhatikan perubahan yang terjadi pada anak dan jika perubahan itu ke arah yang tidak baik, maka sedini mungkin akan bisa dicegah. Ajarkan juga hal-hal yang positif agar anak bisa menjadi seperti yang Anda harapkan.

Kebersamaan keluarga dapat meningkatkan kebahagiaan pada anak-anak. Selain tercukupi dari segi materi, mereka juga mendapatkan kasih sayang yang utuh dari kedua orang tuanya. Hal ini sangat penting untuk menunjang pertumbuhan sang anak. (1001)

Cake Mix Cookies

Have you ever made cookies from a box of cake mix? Cake mix cookies are soft and chewy and super delicious! Plus, they only require 3 ingredients, so making them is essentially a no-fuss, fantastic treat. Here is the recipe…


1 (18.25 oz) box of cake mix- any kind. (The cookies pictured here were made using a strawberry cake mix and a Funfetti cake mix)
2 Eggs
1/3 c. Vegetable Oil

Optional Ingredients:

Powdered Sugar (For chocolate cake mix cookies, roll your balls of dough through a pile of powdered sugar before baking- YUM!)


Heat oven to 375.
Mix cookie ingredients together.
Put 1 inch “globs” onto cookie sheet about 1 inch apart.
Cook for 7-9 minutes or until the edges start to brown.


When your cookies have cooled completely, add some frosting…


… and maybe some sprinkles….


And if your giving these as a gift to neighbors or friends, take it a step further…


And that’s it!


A Month’s Worth of After School Snacks

We’ve been back in school for almost a month now.  My kids have great teachers and are having an awesome year so far.  There is one guarantee every day when they get home from school.  They are famished!  They raid the pantry and fridge like they haven’t eaten in 4 years every day.    Anyone else have this problem?  I gathered some delicious looking after school snacks to share with you.  Some are make ahead, some you can make with your kids (because KIDS CAN COOK!) and some are on the spot.  A little something for everyone.

Over a month's worth of after school snack ideas from thiirtyhandmadedays.com

As always, please click the link to go directly to the source of each recipe.  Thanks!


Rainbow Fruit Cups from My Frugal Adventures

Watermelon on a Stick from Somewhat Simple

Frozen Grapes
from Eating Out Loud

Monster Fruit Dip - fun idea for Halloween from www.thirtyhandmadedays.com
Monster Fruit Dip

One Ingredient Banana Ice Cream (guess what the 1 ingredient is?) from the Kitchn

Rainbow Smoothie Pops via She Knows

Frozen Yogurt Dots from One Good Thing

Yogurt Bars
 from Kids Activities Blog

Peanut Butter and Honey Dip
via I Heart Naptime

Banana Dog from Living Locurto


Fish in the River
via Food.com

Vegetable Flowers
via Spoonful

Cucumber Dips from Makes the Best of Everything

Baked Zucchini Sticks - a healthy take on a delicious side dish or appetizer! | Thirty Handmade Days
Baked Zucchini Sticks with dip 

Granola / Energy Bites


The best granola bars! from Knitty Bitties

Granola Bar Poppers
from Smart School House

Energy Bars from Cookie Mondays

No Bake Granola Bars from Made from Pinterest

Cinnamon Caramel Apple Energy Balls via the NY Melrose Family


Peanut Butter Banana 5 ingredient blender muffins www.thirtyhandmadedays.comPeanut Butter Banana Muffins

Secret Ingredient Chocolate Chip Banana Muffins from www.thirtyhandmadedays.com
Chocolate Chip Pumpkin Muffins

Applesauce Muffins
from Simple as That


Back to School Mix - cute and delicious snack that's perfect for back to school
Back to School Mix

Apple Cheese Crackers from Somewhat Simple

Homemade Graham Crackers from bebe a la mode

Cracker Letters form Kids Activities Blog


Fresh Fruit Flavored Milk
from Your Homebased Mom

Berry Green Smoothies from A Pumpkin and a Princess

Protein Smoothies
from the Taylor House

Make sure to check out these kid approved lunch box & snack ideas:

Kid approved lunch box and snack ideas


If You Give a Teacher a Cookie… Back to School Printable

Forget apples! Cookies are so much better.  Am I right?  (ok apples are great too)  With back to school coming up I created a simple little tag to add for a first day of school treat.
If you give a teacher a cookie back to school printable | Thirty Handmade Days

We are super duper appreciative for teachers in my family.  We’ve had our ups and downs but have felt very fortunate to have had some amazing educators for my three.  They make such a difference in their lives.  We’ve done the Dessert of the Month Club for the last couple of years for some of those awesome teachers.  It’s been fun to get the kids involved.
I still remember all of my teachers and am happy to say that most of mine had a positive influence.  I think about my favorite 3rd grade teacher still and can’t believe that my “baby” is now entering his third grade year!  Here’s to hoping for another fabulous year…

If you give a teacher a cookie back to school printable  | Thirty Handmade Days

While I don’t think it’s necessary to go way overboard, this treat and tag are simple and I bet would make a teacher’s first day brighter.  I hope anyway!

The idea for this post is from the cute books by Laura Joffe Numeroff.

In case you need a good cookie recipe, I have two that will knock your socks off!
5 tips to make the perfect chocolate chip cookies every single time | Thirty Handmade Days

5 tips to make perfect Chocolate Chip Cookies 


These are hands down the best Snickerdoodle cookies I've ever had. I could eat a dozen in one sitting.

the best Snickerdoodles ever!!

If you give a teacher a cookie back to school printable  | www.thirtyhandmadedays.com


My Very First Cake

Actually I had lots of dreams…

I’ve dreaming to be a cook, so I can cook anything I want even just a side dishes, bread, and an icing tart

a few days ago I watched Rossana Pansino (Nerdy Numies), Cookies Cupcakes and Cardio, My Cupcake Addiction, etc on youtube. Theirs show made me want to be like them, I become to be a cook exactly.

Almost on weekend I make it, I tried lots of cake like steamed brownies, rose bakpao, egg-jelly, ombre cake, etc. I know like an old adage that said: “Practise makes perfect” so I do it  dilligently, practise mix the ingredients and icing too.

And tarraaaaaaaaa here they are, please take a look them.

Cake for my beloved mother’s birthday on March 2015


Ombre cake for my sista Marchia on March 2015


Egg-jelly for my great boy TeofilusIMG_20150223_193747[1]Steam brownies Icing (Just practise – TODAY)
IMG_20150321_123029[1]Rose Bakpao for my husband

Hehehehe still amateur, anyway thank you Rossana Pansino (Nerdy Numies), Cookies Cupcakes and Cardio, My Cupcake Addiction, etc

And guys please feel free for ask some recipes…



33 things I never want our kids to forget

What makes a mom unstoppable?  Let just take a look at what did this year… because everyone one of these things makes us unstoppable!   It comes down to family time.  Spending time with our children is so important, which is why I wanted to share these 33 things that we never want our kids to forget.   As a mom, we have the power to impact our children’s lives in more ways than we know.   If I could be any kind of Mom in the world, I would be just like my mom.  I am now in my 30s and I have remembered things about my childhood that I will never forget.  I want to do these things with my kids, too…

1).  You always greeted them at the door when they came home

My Mom was always waiting for us when we came home from school, from a friends house, from a party.  It is important to give your child your full attention when they see you after being away- let them know that you’ve missed them!  Whether it be when you pick them up from preschool or daycare or if you are seeing them when they come home from school- give them your full attention.  Get off of the phone, the computer, the tablet…  and be all there for your child.

2).  Seeing them was the best part of your day!

I try to greet our kids like my grandma greeted me when she saw me… like I had just made her day!  When our kids wake up, I say “Oh, Allie!  I am so happy to see you this morning!  I missed you while we were sleeping!”

3). You treated them like they were important.

My parents have been married for over 35 years.  I heard them enjoying each other’s company every day.  They found ways to show each other that they loved one another!  When my husband & I got married, my Dad said “Remember that if it is important to one of you, it is important.”  I see my parents living this every day.

4). You Prayed together at night

rOur kids know that every night, we are going to sit down and say our prayers together.  We read a devotional that teaches real-life stories (being kind to others, treating your sibling with respect).

5). You respected others… if you do, they will, too!

I always saw the way that my mom treated others and the way that she talked about others. It was never done negatively in front of us. She was always kind and if she had negative words to say about someone, I certainly didn’t know it.

6). You volunteered and they helped

It is so important to teach our kids to volunteer when they are young. Teach them the reason that you take meals to women that have babies or why you sent a card to that family when they had a death in the family. Let them join in.

7). You had them read to you every day & you read to them, too!

sweet  little girl with mother reading book

Oh yes, I could go on and on about the educational benefit of reading (trust me- it is even more important than you think!)  but I want to talk about the EMOTIONAL bond that happens when you read with your child.  My mom used to sit and read Little Women to me every night.  Just a few pages or even a chapter.  It didn’t take long, but here I sit, as an adult, remembering those moments with fondness.

8). You cooked their favorite meal on their birthday

Yes, every year on my birthday, my mom made my favorite dinner. We do this with our kids, too. We don’t go out to eat on their birthdays, instead we stay home and have all of their favorites! They love it!

9). They got to sleep in your bed when they were sick. lie w me

Oh- sleeping in my parents bed when I was sick was such a treat. Add in eating mint chocolate chip ice cream in bed and I was one happy little girl… even with a high fever! I remember it so well.

10). Your cookies were awesome (because you let them help!)
healthy oatmeal Chocolate Chip cookies

That smell of fresh chocolate chip cookies, baking in the oven when your kids get home from school. There is a reason that you see it on commercials so often- because it is a happy memory.

11). They didn’t feel rushed with you

Stop being so rushed. Let them dress themselves. Let them tie their own shoes. What does it really matter if you are three minutes behind schedule? I have to remind my husband of this all the time… Its ok if we are a few minutes late, because today… our kids came first.

12). You payed attention when they talked…

I watched an episode on Oprah once, where Maya Angelou told Oprah that one time her son brought her a picture that he had made and when he showed it to her, she didn’t give him her full attention and just said something like “its nice”.  He then took that same picture, ripped it up and threw it in the garbage can.  When Maya Angelou she asked him why he did that, he said that it was because she didn’t like it because she didn’t look at it.  She vowed then & there to pay attention to everything that he showed her.  Our children are watching us and waiting for us to pay attention to them.  To listen to them.   I always felt like I had my Mom’s full attention, and I still do.   I know that if I am talking to her, she is listening.  What a wonderful feeling to know that someone cares about you enough to really LISTEN.

13). You used to LAY WITH THEM every night.

Mommy, will you lay with me

When our children ask us that question… Mommy, will you lay with me?  What do we normally say? “Just for a second, sweetie.  I have to clean up the kitchen and start laundry and…. ”
But… Do you know what?   This is when the good stuff comes out.    This is when I hear all of those stories, those little details that seven year olds don’t tell their moms anymore. This is when our mother/son relationship becomes a ‘one day best friend’ relationship.

14). You used to get down on the floor to play with them (not just watch).

You used to play dress up, play pirates, play army guys, play princess… with your child and you enjoyed it!   Don’t let them forget that. I am a play therapist– it is my job to play with other children, but I need to remember that my OWN children need playtime.  Not just “let me sit and watch you” time.  They need mommy to get down on the floor or go outside and play one of these games, to just get engaged in the activity.  Schedule it if you have to, but make the time and play with your kids!

15). You took time to be intentional about being together.

We ate dinner together ALMOST every night.  We didn’t  care if we were eating grilled cheese sandwiches and tomato soup, we were eating it together.  TV was NOT allowed to be on during mealtime because we were TALKING as a family.  Sometimes you can’t eat together as a family, but you can spend this time together somewhere else- so find that time and spend it together.

16).  You took an interest in THEIR interests

biggest fan

I  can remember when I was in high school and on the homecoming court, my Mom gave me a card BEFORE the ceremony that said “You will always be a queen in our eyes.”  It has been almost 15 years and I can still see her handwriting on that card.   She and my Dad have always been our biggest fans.  I pray that I continue this with our own children.

17).  You had FAITH IN THEM. (when they lost it in themselves)

When our son started reading, he really dreaded sitting down to read with me (I was a teacher and I made him read like I made my students read)   You should have seen his face when he realized that I had faith in him even when he didn’t have it in himself – read that story here. 


18).  You didn’t care if they saw you acting SILLY!

Do something that they love and do it because they love it!  Take their stuffed animal to work with you, teach them one of your favorite childhood games,  have a dance party!   I dance across the bathroom floor when our daughter is in the tub.  I”ll dance from the bathroom door into our closet doing the robot.  I’ll moonwalk backwards from the closet back to the door.  I’ll skip across, I’ll “swim” backwards.   You should hear her laughing! (not to mention the awesome little workout that I get. haha!) 

19).  You supported their teacher.

Your child needs to know that you supported their teacher.  This teaches them to respect authority, because you did!

23).  You were always so proud to be with them!

Be proud of who they are and what they do.  Don’t make excuses when you go out, such as “Oh- don’t mind his outfit.  He had practice today.”   My mom never said this.  She always just felt proud to have me with her.   I want to be like this.

24).  You always hung up their masterpieces

Display their art work in your home.  I was a teacher and took many classes about the importance of displaying their work. Hang it on your refrigerator, hang it in their bedroom, in your bedroom, in your garage (we have all of the pictures “of daddy” hanging by his workbench.)  Organize their school work & art work, but be sure to keep and display some of it, too!

25).  You weren’t too proud to say I’M SORRY
fam rules

My mom used to tell me that I was always good at learning when to say I’m sorry.  I tell our kids that I am sorry when I lost my temper.   Do you know what has happened?  They have learned by example and are owning up to their own mistakes, as well.

26).  You never compared them to others.

They are listening.  They will take it to heart.   Let them remember that you never compared them. If you want to raise your child to be a leader, you child needs to you stop comparing them to other kids.

27). You were “SO MEAN!
a mean mother

28).  You were not their friend.

My Mom and I have a great relationship.  She is truly my best friend. As a teenager, I argued with her, but needed her, all at the same time.   She and my Dad set high standards and my brother and I always aimed to reach them.  It pays off.

29). Generosity was displayed in your house.

I grew up watching my mom give.  She gives her time, her money, her possessions- she really lives by the “what’s mine is yours” rule, especially with her family.   She has been a SHINING example of what a volunteer looks like (Hospice House, Meals on Wheels, American Cancer Society, etc…)  and what a mother and grandmother looks like.   She is generous and I want to be just like that.  I hope that by watching me, my kids will feel the same way.

30).  Patience was key and you had it.

Be patient in your home.  Be patient with your kids and be patient with your spouse.  Kids will have tantrums- and tantrums are OK sometimes.  Understand that they are kids and gently correctly them and love them all the more.

31).  You didn’t stress out about every little thing.

Did you know that they did a study and found that what kids want most from their parents is to see them being stress-free?  You can be a stress-free mom and let your kids see you enjoying life, not worrying about it!   Your kids will worry if you worry, so teach them not to ‘sweat the small stuff’

32).  You didn’t clean up their messes!

Seriously, I know that you think that you are helping, but you have to STOP doing that for your kids!  Teach them HOW to clean.  Teach them WHEN to clean.  Teach them WHERE to clean.  Don’t do it for them.
stop doing that for your kids

33).  You smiled when they were with you

My grandma used to tell me every day to just enjoy my kids.  She has passed away, but her words still ring true.   My mom really enjoyed being a mom- I could see it in her face, her words, her hugs… every day.  I want our kids to feel that same way.  I want them to remember that I enjoyed spending time with them.  I loved it, I wanted to do it, I ENJOYED IT.  I hope that they never forget these 33 things when they get older and have kids of their own.


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Thank you for reading these and making every minute count with your own kids!


The Best 1st Birthday Gift – Best no gift birthday party

If you are looking for the best 1st birthday gift… you have found it.   The best part?  It isn’t really a GIFT at all!   We had a no gift birthday party and it came with the BEST gifts…

best 1st birthday gift that isn't really a gift at all
I love this idea, because we already have more toys, clothes and ‘things’ than we need.  I knew that our 12 month old was not going to remember that rattle or latest Frozen toy.   This is going to mean SO MUCH MORE.  I wanted something that was completely UN-materialistic.  Even if you just do this with family, its really more of a treasure than a gift.   (Or if you want to bring a gift- do this idea an include it with a gift)

This idea comes from my dear friend, Hillary.   Last year, when Hillary’s daughter, Hazel, turned one, she had each of us bring something unique to her birthday party…   A letter for her daughter to open when she turns 16.

She asked the we also include something to represent the time that we are in (a toy that is popular now, a photograph or newspaper article).  I just loved this idea!

On our daughter’s first birthday, we had a little celebration with our closest friends and family.   We held our own no gift birthday party and it was amazing.   I also asked for a letter for our daughter to open when she turns 16.

When our guest arrived, I was overjoyed at the notes and pictures that our guest brought.  My friend, Hillary, brought a beautiful letter and a Barbie doll.  She attached a note to the Barbie doll that simply said:  “This is what Barbies look like in 2013, but I am sure that when you are 16, they will look much different.  Remember, now that you are 16-  one thing remains true- no girl ever really looks like her so please please please never hold yourself to that ridiculous standard!

Our sweet Allie may not know how important those words are until she is 16 and she finds herself comparing herself to many others, like all of the women before her.  She may not remember just how beautiful she is until she reads those words written by women even when she was just a beautiful baby.

It wasn’t that note that tug at my heartstrings as much as this…  You see, what touched me the most was what she wrote at the end of her letter:

“So, as you read this, chances are great that you will be in the midst of a push-pull relationship with your parents that will feel so real to you and so unique that you will find it hard to believe that for generations before you, this same struggle has marked nearly every parent/child relationship.  But remember that your parents love you.

At the end of the day, that is all that truly matters.  They love you.  They want what is best for you.  They want to protect you from harm and from hurt.  they make their choices based on that desire.  You may not always agree.  They may not always be right.  But they will always be your parents and they will always love you.”

What great words for a teenager to hear, at the age when they need to hear it the most.  It is hard to think that one day this sweet, precious Allie Beth, who at this age won’t let go of my leg, who won’t stop holding my hand even for me to make dinner, who won’t stop asking me to sing ‘Somewhere over the Rainbow’… will one day think that I have anything other than the desire to help her become the strong woman that I know she will be.

But, when that time comes, she will read those words written by my friend and remember how much I love her and how all of those words of “I love you” that I speak to her have been only the truth.

As Hillary wrote in her letter to our daughter: “Being a mom means loving someone with so much force and might that the thought of that person not being there literally takes the breath right out of you.”